Okay, so before all of my 4 female followers boycott me and rip me from head to toe, understand these are not my words! Part of my project for class was to write about an article in the news. I found this one. "Why some single women just need to shut up." I found it intriguing actually, ha.
So, the author, Wendy Atterberry, who I assume is female, goes on to say why she would appreciate it if her fellow women of the world would just quit whining. She says there are many woman who are perfectly content with being single, which is totally fine. But, the audience she chose to speak to was that of the many women who DO want somebody to cuddle with, somebody they can talk to, somebody they can, in the Mormon universe, spend eternity with.
She suggests that these ladies who, and I qoute, are "so committed to not compromising, to not being flexible, to not stepping a centimeter outside their comfort zone, or, God forbid, turning off their guilty pleasure TV, they refuse to actually GO OUT, mingle, maybe even meet someone nice," do just that and make a change. Ouch, faces...
Now, not to say that us guys are doing everything we should to ask all of you nice young ladies out, but just supporting the aformentioned post about how if a girl wants it, flaunt it! If you're not happy with your current dating situation make a change! Let me see that flirty side. Let me know you're interested. The other day I was chastised by a young lady for being home alone watching the Lakers steal a victory from the Denver Nuggets when I could have been out romancing some fine little fox. The point of my story is that she made the effort just to stop by and say hi, even though she ridiculed my hopeless dateless life. (still bitter by the way)
We were also counseled this week by Sister Clark at our "meet the President and his wife FHE" to not have some huge checklist of things we want in the opposite sex. Wendy Atterberry comments on the same saying, "But bear in mind, YOU aren't perfect, and there's not going to be a perfect person for you. If you refuse to settle for anything less, you're going to be lonely for a very, very long time." I learned a lot this week from both of those statements. Really, the object of life isn't to search out and find the ONE perfect person, it's to find that someone that makes you happy, that understands you, and that loves you with all their heart.
So, to wrap up this terribly long post, girls take a chance. You never know, that weirdo that sits behind you in your chem class who breathes heavily every time your eyes wonder in his direction could be your future mate! If not, in the words of Wendy, "for heavens sake, quit your whining. The rest of us don't want to hear it anymore!"
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/28/tf.happies.crappies.alone/index.html#cnnSTCText
So, the author, Wendy Atterberry, who I assume is female, goes on to say why she would appreciate it if her fellow women of the world would just quit whining. She says there are many woman who are perfectly content with being single, which is totally fine. But, the audience she chose to speak to was that of the many women who DO want somebody to cuddle with, somebody they can talk to, somebody they can, in the Mormon universe, spend eternity with.
She suggests that these ladies who, and I qoute, are "so committed to not compromising, to not being flexible, to not stepping a centimeter outside their comfort zone, or, God forbid, turning off their guilty pleasure TV, they refuse to actually GO OUT, mingle, maybe even meet someone nice," do just that and make a change. Ouch, faces...
Now, not to say that us guys are doing everything we should to ask all of you nice young ladies out, but just supporting the aformentioned post about how if a girl wants it, flaunt it! If you're not happy with your current dating situation make a change! Let me see that flirty side. Let me know you're interested. The other day I was chastised by a young lady for being home alone watching the Lakers steal a victory from the Denver Nuggets when I could have been out romancing some fine little fox. The point of my story is that she made the effort just to stop by and say hi, even though she ridiculed my hopeless dateless life. (still bitter by the way)
We were also counseled this week by Sister Clark at our "meet the President and his wife FHE" to not have some huge checklist of things we want in the opposite sex. Wendy Atterberry comments on the same saying, "But bear in mind, YOU aren't perfect, and there's not going to be a perfect person for you. If you refuse to settle for anything less, you're going to be lonely for a very, very long time." I learned a lot this week from both of those statements. Really, the object of life isn't to search out and find the ONE perfect person, it's to find that someone that makes you happy, that understands you, and that loves you with all their heart.
So, to wrap up this terribly long post, girls take a chance. You never know, that weirdo that sits behind you in your chem class who breathes heavily every time your eyes wonder in his direction could be your future mate! If not, in the words of Wendy, "for heavens sake, quit your whining. The rest of us don't want to hear it anymore!"
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/28/tf.happies.crappies.alone/index.html#cnnSTCText
3 comments:
Donald... you can't be bitter at me forever! :) I'm sorry I ridiculed your "hopeless dateless life" but seriously dude... some hott little chica comes to say hi and "flaunt" her stuff and yet you still sit on the couch. ;) I'm just giving you a hard time! I do agree though... ppl need to stop whining about dating if their not putting the effort into it! I will admit that sometimes I whine and say the cliche "man I wish boys weren't so stupid and would pick it up" line... but hey... as Donald has pointed out many times... no one is perfect... it's a work in progress!
So I agree with Donald and will say... Just go out there and let people know that you're interested. But remember that sometimes people may not pick up on the hints... if they don't... you might just have to scream in their face! :)
Whoa, there! I think that with this blog you are over analyzing the male/female relationship. Everyone in the world is just as confused as you are about the opposite sex (maybe some a little bit more than the others), but I don't think you need to dedicate your life to finding out what women want. That's just crazy! Life's too short to worry about that! I think you need to accept things as they really are and come to grips with the fact that nobody is perfect at dating. We all suck at relationships. That's why we are here- learning! Of course we all want companionship and somehow or other people marry. I think you are consumed with what Mormon culture has taught you about marriage. People may laugh and say that you just go to BYU-I to get married blah blah blah, but that's not the truth! Don't let yourself be ruled by what they say. You're just letting yourself be trapped into the way THEY think. You will marry, hopefully, and if that's what you want, it shouldn't be ruled by what others think- or else you will make it their choice as to when you will be married. The time will come. Maybe you will meet your spouse in outer Mongolia or just across the border in ack!- Utah!
I have insecurities about myself too, everyone does. I will never be the brilliant shining star who is so beautiful and so talented. Men aren't always going to be stoic, handsome, with rock, hard abs, and deep clear voices, who play guitar. You may not meet your "dream" girl, but you will meet the RIGHT girl. Remember, we are all here to become perfected in Christ- not to be perfect right away. Who is perfet anyway? He-man may be sexy, but he may not have brains, or worse, emotions. We, as people, are attracted to more than just looks.
There are MANY singles throughout the church who do feel like dating and marriage will never be within their limits. If you die tomorrow, then maybe it will be. But this life, it's here and it's waiting. It will come one day to you and you will be happy. But you have to be patient. But how do you get there? I'm sorry but I'll have to recommend Jane Austen to you. It might help you understand the female mind better. And it has the best dating tips in the world, you just have to adapt them to now-a-days. The books are more than just a romantic story- they show human emotions and foibles. Yes, the guy may get the girl and the girl may get the guy, but bear with it. And a reminder, don't tell girls that they should "flaunt" it. Keep your eyes open, she'll be there.
This comment/post is for every confused person out there! Don't let yourself believe the opposite sex is stupid and have no brains! Women are not always weak, and Men are not always strong. Forget the myths of yesteryear and experience love for yourself before you become a cruel and miserable Scrooge!
I think its funny how the post before mine starts off by saying "Whoa, there! I think that with this blog you are over analyzing the male/female relationship" and then gradually works in to offering you "the best dating tips in the world" and a better understanding of the female mind by urging you to read Jane Austen. So remember not to over analyze the male/female relationship too much, and here's a couple of novels you can read about the female mind. Ha! Not to say that Jane Austen is a bad writer. Pride and Prejudice is a pretty good book, and if you want to read it, or watch the 5 hour mini-series, or the thankfully much shorter movie, go for it. But, if you are just looking at the Bennet family in that book, you can see that the dating females can be categorized into 5 different types. You can be a "Jane," a beautiful girl who is somewhate unaware of her own beauty, kind, and very accepting of situations w/out analyzing them. Or you can be an Elizabeth, a bit sassy, just prejudiced enough to help make a title, but smart, at least enough to learn from situations. Or you're a Mary, ugly, a natural spinster if there ever was one, and deeply involved w/ your skills (playing piano, books, etc). Or you can be a Kitty, an airhead, whiny follower. And Lydia, also an airhead, but very much her own kind of airhead, unlike Kitty, and I would say she was in more than danger of becoming "Vain, ignorant, idle, and absolutely uncontrolled!" And all women (represented by Mrs. Bennet) that are married are pretty much just ridiculous. So, you have a 20% chance of ending up with one of those girls. Or, you could just realize that every girl is different and you should take each one on a case by case basis. Which I think is a smarter approach. I agree with where the author of the quote above is coming from, and I would go a step farther in recommending the same to guys. I understand it's terrible to be single (I thought I'd be forever too) and it's even worse when the only people you have to talk about it is other guys, and you seem to be stuck in this never ending sausage fest. But, I think thats what skiing/snowboarding is for, don't worry too much about the ladies, if you build it (being your character and talents, or perhaps a baseball field in Iowa), they will come.
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