Yes, a few months have gone by and here I find myself once again. Still confused and still seeking greater knowledge into the obscure world of the female mind. I've thought long and hard as to what should be the subject matter of the post for my great and triumphant return to the cyber-world dating scene. After much deliberation I've concluded that nothing would be more fitting than to what's on everyone's mind right now at the beginning of every semester. What hot new guy or girl can I possibly date this semester, and will he/she finally be the one??? And if that's not on your mind right now... Well I suppose you just don't bleed true Byu-Idaho blood then.
Tis' the season for hooking up and pairing off, and by season I mean the first two weeks of school. If you haven't found a mate by this time two days ago, give up, you've lost all hope! Your crush is already dating somebody else. Ha... It hurts but it's probably true. That crush has probably met their soul mate and more than likely it's not you. It's a fact of life I've learned to deal with. I don't know how the heck people do it! I barely have enough time and courage to figure out a girl's name in two weeks time let alone ask them to "go steady".
The question of my heart today is, ladies, what the heck do you think when a guy you don't even know comes up to you out of the blue and asks you on a date? Now now, ladies, before reaching into that clutch purse of yours for that can of mace and rape whistle, what goes through your mind? Are you flattered by his interest and courage or turned off at the fact that he's probably already talked to 5 girls before he got to you? Or maybe you could care less? Maybe it's never happened... would you like it if he did? Is that not creepy that the only reason I'm talking to you is because I'm physically attracted to you? How do those dates turn out if you do go?
Me personally, I like to get to know a girl first. Become closer to them more so on a friendship level, and if something comes from that, that's when I move into phase 2 of my secret 27 step plan to marriage. But never before then. What are these guys thinking anyways? Are they crazy? Am I crazy? Let me know... ESPECIALLY if you're one of those few outliers that has somehow slipped between the cracks of boyfriend and girlfriendom these past two weeks and need somebody to hold. Eh eh? Ha, ladies... It's good to be back.
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I agree with you 100%! To me I always feel that if I were a girl and some random guy asked me out, I'd be put off by his creepy randomness. But then I, like you, try to get to know the girl first, become friends... and then get stuck in "the friend zone" A sad wasteland where even though all logic points to the fact that you and said girl would have a relationship of Jane Austin proportions, the girl sees you as "friend" and thus you are condemned to rot there in agony.
Haha... So true. You know, why don't girls understand the things they claim to want are right before their very eyes? Hello ladies... If a guy is a good friend and spends any considerable amount of time and effort trying to hang out with you, there's definitely more going on there than friendship. Wake up.
I always get creeped out when guys I don't know ask me out, even if they are in my ward or classes, and never agree to go out with them. I like to get to know people first. However, that means I have a ton of guy friends and no dates.
Have Anthony and Anonymous tried asking their girls friends out? They may give that a try. I know that I tell guy friends, all of the time, that "yeah, we are just friends" or "it would never work" just in casual conversation. Do I mean that 100% of the time? Absolutely not. I just don't want to make myself seem desperate or make things awkward.
BTW, I just stumbled across this blog recently and it's awesome. :D
Are you for serious keeping this up? I applaud you, son. And Bro. Allen would be SO proud. He will be hearing about this on Monday (I am his TA this semester).
That's an interesting insight Hillary. I've never thought about girls fibbing to spare their feelings. Hmm, interesting. It seems as though you're onto something. I shall study the subject matter further and repost. I'm glad you like the blog. Share it with all our BYU counter parts over yonder and come again soon!
Katy... it's good to hear from you. How I miss your whit and "what the deuces". Tell Brother Allen hi, and that when my blog goes global, I want the "A" that I deserved. Ha.
I would be totally creeped out if some random guy came and asked me out, but I might also be flatered. It takes a lot of guts to ask someone out that you know, how much more does it take to ask some random girl on the street. So I give them props for doing that but I still don't know that I would say yes and go out with them.
I gave BA your message and let him know about your cluster. I'm pretty sure he got a little teary-eyed. I've honestly never seen him look so proud. Not even over his own children. Oh the impact you've had, young one.
Donald, can i just say that I just started reading your blog cause i forgot I was a member before... but it's awesome! And so true too... But the brutal honesty is good for us to read.
About the random guy asking out thing, I actually think I would be flattered and depending on the way he asked and approached me I would maybe consider it, cause that takes guts!
And about the friend thing, thats tough, cause sometimes its more of a brotherly/sisterly friendship, but you can tell if its something like that, if its not like that, for me a lot of times theres usually a little something more than friendship there, but I never want to be the one to break out of that in case of rejection or making the friendship weird... although if theres something there for both people then those are the relationships that are the best!
-Kaylie
Okay. Putting myself in this scenario... Stranger (George) walks up to me and asks me out. How I feel about this gutsy approach depends on one thing. If George is physically attractive. If he is (1 for 1!) then I am flattered and excited. If he's not (0 for 1), I am hesitant. The only thing I know about George is that he's not very attractive. So if I say yes, I'm taking a risk just banking on the hope that he has a real WINNER personality. You even admitted that the guy is asking me out only because he thinks I'm physically attractive. How can you not expect us to make the same judgment?
So if you are pretty confident in your looks, then maybe this forward approach is gold for you. If you rely on your awesome personality, then you should establish a friendship first so that the girl gets to know your personality. Ta da! I have provided you with a formula for success. And if you like/love one of your (girl) friends, ASK HER OUT. She may not admit that she likes you until you take the first step. It's not hard to get out of the friendship "rut." If she accepts then you're on to your 27 step plan. If she rejects then that's fine too. At least you know and can move on!
Enjoyable discussion!
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