Many relationships start and end great, some not so much. Some start shaky and some end terribly. Now, if you think about it, every relationship you've had up until now hasn't worked out, I repeat, has not worked out! Every relationship that you will have won't work out either! Feeling good about yourself so far?? Now Donald, don't say such hurtful things! But it's true... None of them will work out until you find the right one. Now unfortunately ladies, there's only so much of me to go around, so there will have to be some sort of disappointment amongst yourselves, sorry... ha, please excuse my delirious fantasies. Anyways, until we find that "one" we must sift and sort through oh so many not so close seconds. My question today is, where and in whom should we look for? Do you prefer the next Joe or Jane that shows some affection your direction or do you want somebody more, somebody as in a best friend?
I'm not sure about the rest of the world, but I've had and currently do have friends that I've often wondered, "what would it be like if there were something more between the two of us? We get along so great and I can tell you anything, far better than anyone I've ever gone on a date with." But It often seems almost as if it were taboo to date your friends, just because you don't want the relationship to get in the way of the "friendship"... Or maybe that's just the standard try not to hurt Donald's feelings response. Hmm, probably so I suppose, but to me the answer seems clear.
When I look back on past relationships, I guess I don't really talk to ex-girlfriends that I was friends with initially. Yet at the same time, I don't speak with the girls I wasn't friends with either, so what's the difference? That includes relationships that ended great and those that ended nothing short of a world war! We're all going to go off and get married eventually and face it, we'll all stop talking to our old best friends of the same-sex. If not, we'll probably have some rather jealous/bitter spouses and will probably be seeking a little marriage counseling.
So, I guess my point is why not?? I think the pros far outweigh the cons. So you may lose a friend or two, but think of what you might gain. Yeah, it always stinks when old friendships just aren't quite what they used to be, but as the two great poets William Shakespeare and Jason Mraz once said, "It's better to have been so lucky to have loved and lost a best friend than it is to have not loved at all." Haha, or at least something along those lines. Friends everywhere, If you've ever wondered "what if", here's my invitation to you, think a little less about losing a good friend and a little more about what it would be like to love a best friend.
3 comments:
A-FREAKIN-MEN.
Donald, this is a very opinionated topic that should cause a great discussion. As we discussed earlier today, relationships are a gambling game. Should we gamble with our friends? My answer is yes. You give good points as to why not--eventually we will all be married. Will we maintain that friendship with that person along with our spouse? It does depend. I look at my parents, for example, my mom has girl friends, my dad has guy friends, and together they have couple friends. Neither of them have friends of the opposite gender unless it's a friendship they share together. So as we are on our mission to find a successful relationship, why does it really matter if we jeapordize a friendship we have now. It could turn out for the better or the worse. Love is a risk, a gample... you lose until you win. What I am ultimately saying is that date your friends if there's mutual interest. What's the big deal when all is said and done?
Donald I'm giving you an A+ for this post! I say GO FOR IT! What is there to lose really? I think if there is mutual interest there should be no question about wether or not two people should date, no matter how good of friends they are! I can think of multipe examples of "best" friends that I was interested in as more than friends, but because of "friendship" sake nothing eve went anywhere. TAKE THE CHANCE... like Donald said... even if we do lose a few friend along the way you might find you best friend.
Here's my other thought on this subject... I FIRMLY believe that even if two people have dated, and it didn't work out, does NOT mean that they can't be friends anymore. Granted it makes it a little harder to be just friends again... but what in life isn't hard? When both people work to keep the friendship than it works out.
Ok... last point. To kinda contradict myself from my last paragraph I wanna point out that after you get married you don't really need friends of the opposite sex anyways. My whole life I've been better friends with guys than I have with girls. I look at all my best guy friends (some who I dated btw) who are married and honestly I don't really talk to them much anymore. Their my friends as in I'll send them an invitation when I get married, but we don't ever hang out and we barely even communicate. Honestly on my side I don't think it's fair to thier wife for me to be talking to them all the time! SO... in retrospect... I still say... YES... it's PERFECTLY ok to date your friends. Because in the long run if you play it smart you may find your best friend... and you'll still have your friends! :)
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